To allow is to simply be with what is and take no exception. Training our mind to allow things to play out the way they need to provide to us rest. No longer do we dwell on why it is wrong or any other negative aspect. Things are as they are. No amount of anger or wishing is going to change that, allow it to just be.
While we sometimes feel like we NEED to do something or we NEED to act, it just isn’t so! The whole world, and everyone in it, got along just fine before you were here and it will continue when you are gone. You need not do anything.
Allowing is to observe life and all the stuff that happens without judgement, fear, or action. It means to accept the actions and consequences that unfold, and to know, that things are as they are … and it is OK.
Rather than being the savior and fixing everything in sight, we must create space in our life to allow others to take care of their part of life too.
Allowing is powerful because it excuses us from being general manager of the universe. It provides opportunity for others to take responsibility and accountability for their own actions. We are freed from needing to direct each and every single thing under the sun.
When we allow, we give way for greater possibility. Rather than relying on what we think should happen, we create expansive opportunity for the possibility of all things. Let’s face it, a way other than our own may well work…in fact, it may even work better than our way would have. The only way to find out is to allow it to happen.
Being present amidst possibility (without imposing direction or opinion) allows a broader and sometimes enlightening perspective that simply isn’t available if we have our mind set in one particular path. No longer are we micromanaging each and every word, action or deed, we begin to see things as they are and possibly with new and exciting potential! At once, we are engaged with a dynamic of life that wasn’t available when we thought we had to manage it all.
We may begin to see that actions and consequences are part of life itself and whatever the actions or consequences are, it is more akin to entertainment than responsibility. Rather than living everyone else's life, and being the director of a marionette show, we begin to be present to what is in our own life.
As we focus our energies on looking inward to see what is going on with self, our focus begins to deepen and our level of understanding of life itself blossoms.
The root of the word forgive is “pardonare” and it means to give completely without reservation. It is to pardon any transgressions against us it is to let go of grief, to let go of pain, to let go of hurts committed toward us, and by us.
The most important and most difficult in the practice of forgiveness perhaps, is to forgive yourself. Your challenge then is to look in to your heart and see where you are not forgiving yourself and others.
What might seem wrong at some level might be personally insulting. To achieve peace, you must learn to realize that the person that did whatever they did was doing the very best they could with the tools they had to work with.