Patience: 3 Things You Need to Do During the L.A.G.

Patience: 3 Things You Need to Do During the L.A.G.

Our lives may have gotten so full, and so complexed that many of us have forgotten how to be patient. Not only do we need to be reminded, we need to continually practice patience.

The “L.A.G.” are the 3 steps and the acronym I use to remind myself of what to do when I am feeling impatient.  It is when I cannot stand to wait, and I truly DO NOT WANT TO WAIT that this practice comes in most useful. 

“L.A.G.” is a distraction technique that is not a distraction at all but a way to deeply connect myself to a mindful, moment-to-moment practice of presence, and thus patience.

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12 Tips To Breakthrough Negativity :: How To Get Out Of A Funk

12 Tips To Breakthrough Negativity :: How To Get Out Of A Funk

Whenever you are faced with less than stellar circumstances, you can always put a twist on a N.E.G.A.T.I.V.E.

The beautiful Tachi Wiltshire at Bajezen shares her experiences and wisdom practices in slaying negative vibes, turning them into positive energy that serves her being and soul.

If ever you find you are in a funk, give these practices consideration. These may just be the positive solution you are seeking. 

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How I Know I am Never Alone and What You Need to Know

How I Know I am Never Alone and What You Need to Know

I share my 1st steps in Europe, the beginning of a Parisan adventure. Despite all that appears foreign, I am accompanied by the undercurrent of good that underwrites my life.

Not knowing language or land, I find myself greeted by familiar souls, bridging the sacred past to the ever unfolding present.

In this post, I share my experience and the the five spiritual practices that have nursed and nurtured my personal growth. Through these 5 steps, I practice presence - staying connected to the ever present good that is life. 

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How to Surrender Control and Totally Love Your Life

How to Surrender Control and Totally Love Your Life

The facts tell all: to do lists, organizers, schedules, bullet journals, even recipes! Although these are tools for productive (and yummy 😋) living, we may be a bit attached. Rather than utilizing them as tools, we’ve become somewhat neurotic and dependent - our tools run us!!  (Think about your smart phone 😬😳😱). 

Check out these 6 audacious practices that help keep me ahead of the addiction to control. They “grow” me out of my comfort zone as I lean into the bliss that is my one precious life.

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7 Benefits of Deep Breathing and What You Need to Know

7 Benefits of Deep Breathing and What You Need to Know

This awareness of breathing deeply is the beginning of a larger awareness of Self that is a blue print to what makes you tick.

The practice of slow, deep, intentional breathing is a window to better understand yourself: insight on what drives you, and what might be behind your actions.

Slowing down the breath may also hold the key to the mystery of life, providing profound insights to your soul’s purpose.

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A Solution for Stress and What You Need To Do NOW 💆🏻‍♀️

A Solution for Stress and What You Need To Do NOW 💆🏻‍♀️

Stress can make us react, rather than respond to situations, people, places and things.

Reaction might cause us to snap, snap, and attack (even when we don’t mean to!). We all can become growly bears when we feel depleted right?

With story and insights, I share with you the SDB Method (TM) - Stop. Drop. and Breath Stress Response Method (TM) to help you come back to center.

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6 Fearless Steps to Move From Grief to Growth and What You Need to Know

6 Fearless Steps to Move From Grief to Growth and What You Need to Know

Transitions and Every Day Grief:  Instead of the monumental grief associated with the death of a loved one (of someONE), I want to address the subtle everyday grief, associated with the passing of a part of us that is no longer (of someTHING).

Everyday grief is what I would call “process grief.”

Process grief is the necessary process of letting go of people, places and things that once served us well.  Yet, no longer serve us now. 

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5 Ways To Spring Clean That Will Make You Simplify Your Life You Need to Know

5 Ways To Spring Clean That Will Make You Simplify Your Life You Need to Know

Spring cleaning, love it or loathe it, is a good way to clear your mind, simplify your life and increase your productivity levels. I’ll admit, cleaning never sounds like the most exciting activity; however, it can be incredibly satisfying once completed. 

Check out these 5 ways to declutter and how spring cleaning can have a dramatic impact on your health and wellbeing. Decluttering your surroundings enables the mind to be decluttered all at once.

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H.A.L.T. :: 4 Signs to STOP for Self-Care and How to Refuel You Need to Know

H.A.L.T. :: 4 Signs to STOP for Self-Care and How to Refuel You Need to Know

H.A.L.T. :: Hungry . Angry . Lonely . Tired .

Just as a car needs fuel to run, so too, do the trinity of our body, mind, and spirit. We must make sure we are not running on empty.

When we feel drained, it is time to stop and refuel. To avoid breakdown and disaster, we can remember to stop and take care of ourselves.  A great way to remember to yield - to STOP for self-care is to remember the word and acronym: HALT.

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7 Powerful Practices of Courage You Need To Master On The Journey Home To Yourself

7 Powerful Practices of Courage You Need To Master On The Journey Home To Yourself

Home is where our heart is. In the journey home to the heart, we have ample opportunities to recognize the Truth of Our Being so that we can honor the authenticity of our soul's path, and who we’ve come to be.

Mastering these 7 powerful practices of courage requires commitment, consistency and even charisma!  May this practice, along with insightful questions, lead you home to a greater awareness of your purpose and calling in life.

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5 Positive Reasons To Reclaim Your Personal Power You Need To Know

5 Positive Reasons To Reclaim Your Personal Power You Need To Know

From where, or from whom, do you source your power?  

True to the words, I define personal power as something deeply personal:  Personal power is my own ability to influence, sway, relate to and utilize the power that courses through me, as me, within me to run my life in a way that empowers my living. 

These 5 Guardrails to Happiness (TM) had helped me safeguard and reclaim my personal power, and I believe that with practice, you too can reclaim your happy too!   

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The Truth About the Greatest Love Of All

The Truth About the Greatest Love Of All

As Valentines Day approaches this year, I’ve been thinking about the value of this holiday. Negative perspectives have been springing up around our electronic consciousness (aka social media outlets) about this “sweet as a toothache” holiday.  

These current rattlings in the world have inspired me to think deeper about the idea of Love and to invite my single friends to transform the negative stigma of Valentine’s Day for those uninvolved in romantic relationships....

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11 Questions That Will Inspire You as a Blogger

11 Questions That Will Inspire You as a Blogger

These 11 questions were asked of me, and have inspired me to renew my commitment to my craft.  In turn, I've got 11 original questions for you to (re)ignite your passion for getting out there and speaking your Truth. 

A big Mahalo (Thank you in Hawaiian) to fellow island girl and heart-centered blogger, Tachi Wilshire for recognizing me and nominating me for the Sunshine Blogger Award.  This award allows the blogging community to support, promote and encourage one another, connecting us to our common bond: writing in the digital media space.   For this privilege, I am honored, and humbled.  Please visit these fabulous blogs on my list of nominations.  They are AMAZING!!

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The Nasty Reptile: How Aggression Lives in You and What You Need to Know

The Nasty Reptile: How Aggression Lives in You and What You Need to Know

Many of us act instinctively and may not even be aware that we're not in control of our reactions.

The irritation we feel may turn into agitation and then we become aggregated.  Rather than reacting with agitation, irritation or even aggression, we might stop to take a breath, and tame that crazy reptile within!  

Included in this article are the four steps to Taming Your Inner Reptile.

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Come Home to Worth

Come Home to Worth

Success is a result of hard work.  But, success is not me.  It is no different than saying failure is not me.

What we do or not do does NOT determine our worth.

We are inherently worthy just as we come.

Coming home to ourself is a single conscious moment of awareness of where we are and what we are simply is.  Rather than human doings, we live as human beings.

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8 Reasons to Respond With Thanks EVEN WHEN You Feel Ungrateful

8 Reasons to Respond With Thanks EVEN WHEN You Feel Ungrateful

“Saying thank you as a spiritual practice does NOT mean “thanks for nothing” or as a comedic brush-off like the familiar American saying, “thank you, ma’am, may I have another.” Responding with Thank You is a way of honoring The Gift of the moment itself.”

Being grateful is not about the other.  When we shift our perspective from victim to victor, we a live a life of awe - and bonafide miracles unfold before us.  Gratitude allows us to accept, to release and to move on.

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Possibility for Today

Possibility for Today

Today is the 1st day of 2018.  The 526,600 minutes of the year is filled with ample opportunities to create the life you want. 

The saying, “Today is the beginning of the rest of your life!” may seem more applicable today than any.  Join me today (and this brand new year!) to reset, to get centered and clear on what’s yours to do.

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Perfection of the Imperfect

The Perfection in the Imperfect: the gift of possibility and become open to the positive unfolding of our sweet, sweet life.

We recently attended a holiday performance of a dance group my son was part of.
There were a total of 20 10-year-olds on stage. They were pensive, shy and modest.  Having only rehearsed for a few weeks, all was new to them.

The insecurity was palpable as they looked at (looked for?) one another before, during and after they completed their routine.

There were arms and legs everywhere as these children pranced across the stage.  They giggled nervously when they dropped their props, but went right back to doing their thing. 

At one point, the routine required 2 groups of children, on opposite sides of the stage to skip and glide (bounce?) sideways, arms in the air, crossing one another.

I was just glad no one crashed into each other!

These brave children, bless them, did their best to mimic what their teacher was trying to teach.  But, I would not say they were ready to officially audition to be an opening act to any show.

Clearly, this was more of a family style get together “show” for the parents, than an audience-ready polished routine for Broadway.

Despite how it turned out, all the parents (and I mean every single one) were ultra proud of their children.

The performers received standing ovations and even whistles from the crowd. 

After leaving the performance, I reflected on my very different dance training experience when I was a child. I was trained rather stringently.  Performing, for me, was all about perfection.

Yet, as I am now older, and have had this very loving experience of watching this performance, I come full circle.  

I am seeing the perfection in the imperfect.

I have learned so much from watching the courage of these children.  This performance experience for my child, and others, was clearly not about getting everything exact. 

Among my lessons were: allowing, accepting and being present to what is.

Perfection is not about being perfect.

Sure, they were not at all what I would consider performance ready, but they went on anyway.  
They had fun, and enjoyed themselves even despite the imperfection of their routine.  They didn’t let insecurity stop them.  They embraced their fears and mistakes, nonetheless.
And the crowd absolutely loved it, and loved them, even more.  

How supported they must feel to have that kind of backing!

Despite their imperfection, the performance was perfect, just as it was.  

The moment was perfect as dotting parents watched their kid do their thing with heart, and joy, and big bright smiles.

Imperfection is perfect because it leads me from where I am now to where I am next.  Imperfection is the process of my becoming. 

The lesson here, I have come to realize, is that I need to learn from these magnificent kids and embrace my process of being also.  

There is perfection in everything we do in life because we are always in process. 

And rather than expecting my living to look a certain way, I shall live more presence, and thus, more life, into the experience of being alive.

Releasing my attachments to perfection, and letting go of judgement for how it “should” be or “should” look, I realize how we, human beings as works progress, often mistakenly label moments in our life, rather than being present and awake to the sacred process that is happening through us: life.

We are in process of being.  We are being, regardless of what we may be doing in every moment.  In every moment of our lives, we are being human.
— Rev. Evelyn Foreman

Our labels, for example:

  • “Good days vs bad days”
  • “We had a great time...”
  • “It was a terrible experience...”

Each of these proclamations lead us to judge our experiences.  From there, we live out what we claim, and our subsequent experiences are clouded by good and bad.

No longer do we stay present to possibility, we’ve doomed ourselves to the decision we have already made about whether we will enjoy the experience, or not.

When we stop to really look at each moment in our lives, we will realize that whatever is at the moment, is perfect.

It is perfect because we are in process, progressing to evolve our beingness in every moment.

When we step back and get over ourselves (release our attachments, expectations and judgements) we can then learn to be with what is, seeing the perfection in every moment of life.  

In doing so, we allow ourselves the gift of possibility and become open to the positive unfolding of our sweet, sweet life.  

How (in what ways) do you see perfection in what might seem imperfect in your life? 

On Listening...

If we are to be divinely guided in our lives, we must be listening.
— Linda Curry
We Must be Listening in order to hear.  Guest Post Linda Curry - Path of Presence

Guest Post by Linda Curry, True Balance Wellness

If we are to be divinely guided in our lives, we must be listening. But how can we ensure we are truly listening?

In our productive lives, listening is not always a walk in the park. After seeing documentary “Walk With Me: A Journey Into Mindfulness with Thich Nhat Hanh,” I was reminded the importance of slow, deliberate movement.

I can still see Thich Nhat Hanh leading his followers through the forest as if in slow motion. Each step onto the earth appeared deliberate and conscious. I sat in the theater able to feel his foot touch the earth crunching the dried leaves, and I could hear each bird and insect coming through.

The clouds drifted as in slow motion as my mind was moving at the same speed. Everything slowed down around me as I became still inside.

When in this state of consciousness and deliberate movement, it is much easier to listen, observe, feel. When present, the guidance is loud and clear. The guidance is exactly what you are conscious to. The foot touching the earth, the birds and insects communicating, the clouds drifting – that is your guidance. Just being present to what is, is the guidance we are invited to follow.

I know most probably hope for divine intervention that catapults you to make a clear business decision that will ramp your revenue 200% in the next month. But that is not what this journey is about.

Being present and conscious of life is what life is.

Whatever happens from there is perfection, on-point, purposeful. Being fully present with each step, word, glance, and pen stroke is all that is asked of us.

The rest will fall into place, into formation for your spiritual journey.

In what ways do YOU practice (or might you practice) deep listening? 

Practice Gratefulness

Gratitude opens the heart to possibility and the eye to see the good.
— Rev. Evelyn Foreman
Practice Gratefulness Quote by Dalai Lama on Path of Presence with Evelyn Foreman

The definition of respect is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

When we are grateful, we cultivate conditions to open our heart to possibility, and our eyes to good.

To be grateful is to expand our energy, releasing us from a position of defensiveness (one that is guarded with suspicion), to a an open, expansive welcoming, embrace of anyone with whom we might feel in opposition.

In practicing gratefulness, we surrender belligerence and the need to be right.  Rather, we decidedly take a stand in awe, and we intentional marvel at the possibility before us.

It is in times when we feel the least grateful, when we catch ourselves complaining, whining, blaming or shaming, that we need most this practice. 

Let the practice of gratitude, and open-hearted appreciation be the path home to your sacred, most noble self.

What might you find difficult to give thanks for?  How might you start shifting your awareness of the good that can come out it?  Please share as it speaks to you. <3